When you fight in front of your children ... 
That changes who they are ...

Oriah Mountain Dreamer ...

It doesn't interest me what you do for a living

I want to know what you ache for 

And if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing 

It doesn't interest me how old you are 

I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love

For your dreams,

For the adventure of being alive

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon

I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow

If you have been opened by life's betrayals

Or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own

If you can dance with wildness

And let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes

Without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic

Or to remember the limitations of being human

It doesn't interest me if the story you're telling me is true

I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself

If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul

I want to know if you can be faithful and therefore be trustworthy

I want to know if you can see beauty even when its not pretty every day

And if you can source your life from God's presence

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine

And still stand on the edge of a lake

and shout to the silver of the full moon, "Yes!"

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have

I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair

Weary and bruised to the bone

And do what needs to be done for the children

It doesn't interest me who you are

How you came to be here

I want to know if you will stand in the center of the Fire with me

And not shrink back

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied

I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself

And if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments

Rumi ...

Where have you gone my Love ???

You left me broken, hopeless

I will mourn for you as long as I live

Hope comes in hopelessness

On my quest

I feel so confused and restless

Set on fire, my heart explodes

With the pain of separation

In this struggle, I am caught forever

Unless I go beyond this

You and I

Are you searching for your soul ???

Then come out of your prison

Leave the stream and join the river

That flows into the Ocean

Absorbed in this world

You’ve made it your burden

Rise above this world

There is another vision

Learn With Every Goodbye ...

After a while, you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul ...

And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning ...

And company doesn’t mean security ...

And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts ...

And presents aren’t promises ...

And you begin to accept your defeats ...

With the grace of a woman ...

Not the grief of a child ...

And learn to build all your roads on today ...

Because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans ...

And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight ...

And after a while, you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much ...

So you plant your own garden ...

And decorate your own soul ...

Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers ...

And you learn that you really can endure ...

That you really are strong ...

And you really do have worth ...

And you learn ...

And learn ... 

With every goodbye, you learn ...

We're bigger than these skeletons ... We're bigger than this skin #JafarAlamPoetry

Ten Rape Prevention Tips ...

1. Don’t put drugs in women’s drinks ...

2. When you see a woman walking by herself, leave her alone ...

3. If you pull over to help a woman whose car has broken down ...
    Remember not to rape her ...

4. If you are in an elevator and a woman gets in, don’t rape her ...

5. When you encounter a woman who is asleep ... 
    The safest course of action is to not rape her ...

6. Never creep into a woman’s home through an unlocked door or window ... 
    Or spring out at her from between parked cars ... Or rape her ...

7. Remember, people go to the laundry room to do their laundry ... 
    Do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room ...

8. Use the Buddy System ... 
     If it is inconvenient for you to stop yourself from raping women ... 
    Ask a trusted friend to accompany you at all times ...

9. Carry a rape whistle ... 
    If you find that you are about to rape someone ... 
    Blow the whistle until someone comes to stop you ...

10. Don’t forget: Honesty is the best policy ... 
      When asking a woman out on a date ... 
      Don’t pretend that you are interested in her as a person; 
      Tell her straight up that you expect to be raping her later ... 
      If you don’t communicate your intentions ... 
      The woman may take it as a sign that you do not plan to rape her ...

Bob Marley ... How To Treat A Woman ...

You may not be her first, her last, or her only ... 

She loved before she may love again ... 

But if she loves you now, what else matters ??? 

She’s not perfect ... 

You aren’t either ... 

And the two of you may never be perfect together ... 

But if she can make you laugh, 

Cause you to think twice, 

And admit to being human and making mistakes ... 

Hold onto her and give her the most you can ... 

She may not be thinking about you every second of the day ... 

But she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break ... 

Her heart ... 

So don’t hurt her ... 

Don’t change her ... 

Don’t analyze ... 

And don’t expect more than she can give ... 

Smile when she makes you happy ... 

Let her know when she makes you mad ... 

And miss her when she’s not there ...

Ram Dass ...

The most important aspect of love is not in giving or the receiving ... It's in the being ... 


When I need love from others, or need to give love to others, I'm caught in an unstable situation ... 


Being in love, rather than giving or taking love, is the only thing that provides stability ... 


Being in love means seeing the Beloved all around me ...

God's love is enough #JafarAlamPoetry

I got a certain smile ... And only a certain kind of love can bring it out #JafarAlamPoetry

Love is in high demand low supply #JafarAlamPoetry

Ignorance got its own kinda depth #JafarAlamPoetry

You gotta go with the one that makes you smile ... Consistently #JafarAlamPoetry

Real love stories never have endings ...

3 Years ...

Toronto. Afternoon. My skin. My heart. My poems. Failed love. #JafarAlamPoetry

Eye To The Horizon ...

Love asks for love #JafarAlamPoetry

Rumi ...

Now that you live in my chest ... 

Anywhere we sit is a mountaintop ...

Why We Shout In Anger ...

A saint was visiting the Ganges river to bathe one day ... He overheard some family members on the banks, shouting and bickering angrily at each other ... 

He turned to his disciples, smiled and asked, "Why do angry people shout at each other ???" ... The disciples thought for a while, then one of them said, "Because we lose our calm, that's why we shout" ... The saint replied, "But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you ??? You can simply tell him or her what you have to say in a soft manner" ... Other disciples supplied answers but none satisfied the saint ...

Finally, the saint explained, "When two people are angry at each other, there is a great distance between their hearts ... To cover that distance they must shout so they can hear each other ... The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other, such that they can bridge that great distance ... What happens when two people fall in love ??? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, because their hearts are very close ... The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small" ... The saint continued, "When they love each other even more, what happens ??? They do not speak; they only whisper, and when they get even closer to each other in their love, finally they do not need to whisper; they only look at each other and that’s all ... That is how close two people are when they love each other" ...

He looked at his disciples and said, "So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more ... Otherwise, there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return" ...

Bruce and Brandon Lee ...

War Is Not Easy ... It's Beyond Imagination ...

What you fight against, controls you ... 
To overcome a problem you must not fight ... 
But lead the problem to its resolution ...

Imagination is where all magic is stored #JafarAlamPoetry

Wislawa Szymborska ...

Let the people who never find true love, keep saying that there's no such thing ... 


Their faith will make it easier for them to live and die ...

A life without God is all around unappealing to me #JafarAlamPoetry

How do you find inner peace ??? ... Be and then do ... 
And then do-be-do-be-do ...

Her eyes get heavy and her voice breakable, like cracked soil ... And there she plants and grows everything she has ever loved and wanted #JafarAlamPoetry

Tariq Ramadan ...

If you don't have respect, consistency, and humility ... 
The dialogue is just exchanging words ... 

Bring your light ... Leave your f(l)ame #JafarAlamPoetry

Bruce Lee ...

I have come to discover through earnest personal experience ... 
And dedicated learning ... 
That the greatest help ... 


Is self-help ... 


Doing one's best ... 
Dedicating one's self wholeheartedly to a given task ... 
Which happens to have no end ... 


But is an ongoing process ...

I miss you looking at me, like you had everything you wanted #JafarAlamPoetry

I Need You Baby ...

Only The UnLOVEd HATE ... Charlie Chaplin ...