When you fight in front of your children ... 
That changes who they are ...

Oriah Mountain Dreamer ...

It doesn't interest me what you do for a living

I want to know what you ache for 

And if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing 

It doesn't interest me how old you are 

I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love

For your dreams,

For the adventure of being alive

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon

I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow

If you have been opened by life's betrayals

Or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own

If you can dance with wildness

And let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes

Without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic

Or to remember the limitations of being human

It doesn't interest me if the story you're telling me is true

I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself

If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul

I want to know if you can be faithful and therefore be trustworthy

I want to know if you can see beauty even when its not pretty every day

And if you can source your life from God's presence

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine

And still stand on the edge of a lake

and shout to the silver of the full moon, "Yes!"

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have

I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair

Weary and bruised to the bone

And do what needs to be done for the children

It doesn't interest me who you are

How you came to be here

I want to know if you will stand in the center of the Fire with me

And not shrink back

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied

I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself

And if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments

Rumi ...

Where have you gone my Love ???

You left me broken, hopeless

I will mourn for you as long as I live

Hope comes in hopelessness

On my quest

I feel so confused and restless

Set on fire, my heart explodes

With the pain of separation

In this struggle, I am caught forever

Unless I go beyond this

You and I

Are you searching for your soul ???

Then come out of your prison

Leave the stream and join the river

That flows into the Ocean

Absorbed in this world

You’ve made it your burden

Rise above this world

There is another vision

Learn With Every Goodbye ...

After a while, you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul ...

And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning ...

And company doesn’t mean security ...

And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts ...

And presents aren’t promises ...

And you begin to accept your defeats ...

With the grace of a woman ...

Not the grief of a child ...

And learn to build all your roads on today ...

Because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans ...

And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight ...

And after a while, you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much ...

So you plant your own garden ...

And decorate your own soul ...

Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers ...

And you learn that you really can endure ...

That you really are strong ...

And you really do have worth ...

And you learn ...

And learn ... 

With every goodbye, you learn ...

We're bigger than these skeletons ... We're bigger than this skin #JafarAlamPoetry

Ten Rape Prevention Tips ...

1. Don’t put drugs in women’s drinks ...

2. When you see a woman walking by herself, leave her alone ...

3. If you pull over to help a woman whose car has broken down ...
    Remember not to rape her ...

4. If you are in an elevator and a woman gets in, don’t rape her ...

5. When you encounter a woman who is asleep ... 
    The safest course of action is to not rape her ...

6. Never creep into a woman’s home through an unlocked door or window ... 
    Or spring out at her from between parked cars ... Or rape her ...

7. Remember, people go to the laundry room to do their laundry ... 
    Do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room ...

8. Use the Buddy System ... 
     If it is inconvenient for you to stop yourself from raping women ... 
    Ask a trusted friend to accompany you at all times ...

9. Carry a rape whistle ... 
    If you find that you are about to rape someone ... 
    Blow the whistle until someone comes to stop you ...

10. Don’t forget: Honesty is the best policy ... 
      When asking a woman out on a date ... 
      Don’t pretend that you are interested in her as a person; 
      Tell her straight up that you expect to be raping her later ... 
      If you don’t communicate your intentions ... 
      The woman may take it as a sign that you do not plan to rape her ...

Bob Marley ... How To Treat A Woman ...

You may not be her first, her last, or her only ... 

She loved before she may love again ... 

But if she loves you now, what else matters ??? 

She’s not perfect ... 

You aren’t either ... 

And the two of you may never be perfect together ... 

But if she can make you laugh, 

Cause you to think twice, 

And admit to being human and making mistakes ... 

Hold onto her and give her the most you can ... 

She may not be thinking about you every second of the day ... 

But she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break ... 

Her heart ... 

So don’t hurt her ... 

Don’t change her ... 

Don’t analyze ... 

And don’t expect more than she can give ... 

Smile when she makes you happy ... 

Let her know when she makes you mad ... 

And miss her when she’s not there ...

Ram Dass ...

The most important aspect of love is not in giving or the receiving ... It's in the being ... 


When I need love from others, or need to give love to others, I'm caught in an unstable situation ... 


Being in love, rather than giving or taking love, is the only thing that provides stability ... 


Being in love means seeing the Beloved all around me ...